By now you know that some of the best advice you’re going to receive after your break up is to completely ignore your ex boyfriend. You’re read about it online, your friends have told you all about how it worked for them and you’re a believer, right? The problem is that you don’t have the willpower to actually pull it off. You want to. Every fiber of your being is trying its best to avoid the man you love, but you just can’t seem to do it. It’s hard. I know from firsthand experience just how hard it is. It’s possible though and it’s highly effective if you do it the right way and for the right amount of time.
The number one mistake women make when they decide they are going to ignore their ex boyfriend in an effort to win back his love is they tell him. They march right up to him and they say something along the lines of, “I’m not going to talk to you for a month,” or “it’s time I started a new life without you,” or the most cringe worthy of all, “you’ll regret leaving me.” These all seem like great things to say to a man right before you cut off contact but you’re just announcing your intentions to him and that’s going to result in him likely not reacting at all to your absence. You can’t tell the man that you’re going to ignore him. You just need to ignore him- no fanfare involved!
Once you’ve actually made the decision to ignore your ex you now need to put that plan into practice which is so much easier said than done. Let’s face it – it’s near impossible to go from sharing your life with a man for weeks or months to not talking to him at all. Things are going to happen that you want to share with him, so you’ll reach for your phone to tell him. You’re going to look at his Facebook wall and see things you want to comment on or you’ll log in as a friend so you can spy on his wall and then you’ll feel the need to message him with a question or comment. It’s natural to want to talk with him, and it’s natural to feel as though you’re going to lose him if you don’t. Those are all emotions every woman in your position has had to balance.
The best advice I can personally offer to you is to jump into something new right after your break up. I’m not talking about a romantic relationship. Don’t do that. I’m talking about volunteering, or breathing life back into a friendship you may have pushed aside when you got hot and heavy with your ex. Maybe you want to take a course in the evenings that will help your career or maybe you just have the urge to paint your apartment or join a new book club or gym. Find something you can be passionate about and then get out there and put everything you have into it. It will take time but your focus is definitely going to shift in time and you’ll feel less and less of a pressing urge to talk to your ex boyfriend.
Once a few weeks to a month has passed it will be time to reintroduce yourself back into your ex boyfriend’s life. This is the most crucial part of your plan to ignore him. If you don’t handle this correctly, all the effort and time you put into avoiding him to this point will be all for naught. Many women reach out to their ex boyfriends after a period of no contact only to say something wrong or to put too much pressure on him and the break up ends up being permanent.
To learn how to press specific emotional triggers within him when you contact him again, watch this very informative video. It will help you handle the situation in the very best way so you’ll soon be back in the arms of the man you adore and your relationship will be one that you’ll both treasure forever.