By now you’ve heard at least a few people suggesting that ignoring your ex boyfriend is the way to get him back. You know that it’s hard, right? How can you possibly just stop trying to get him to come back to you? You’re really worried that if you ignore him, he’s going to take that as a sign that you’re not interested at all and he’ll go out looking for someone else to get close to. It makes sense, doesn’t it? It does but the truth is that male brains aren’t wired the same way that ours are. Men don’t view someone ignoring them as the kiss of death. They actually become more intrigued if their ex girlfriend suddenly seems completely disinterested in them. That’s why you’re going to find it very effective if you can muster up the strength to block your ex boyfriend out of your thoughts for at least a couple of weeks.
The Male Psychology That Will Win Him Back
Men cannot stand rejection. It’s simply a fact of life. Consider any man you’ve ever known in your life be it your ex boyfriend, your brother, a friend or even your father. If they are shut out of something they truly want, they generally won’t take “no” for an answer. They’ll fight and claw their way back into the running. That stands true if it’s a job they want, if there’s a house they’re longing to buy or if there’s a woman they love. A man doesn’t want to feel as though he’s not good enough and if you suddenly ignore him, that’s exactly the emotion that it’s going to produce in your ex boyfriend. He’ll start to wonder why you don’t want anything to do with him anymore and he’ll work hard at getting your attention back.
You can do a simple trial run of this if you’re still a non-believer.(Don’t feel badly for that –I was exactly the same way when my boyfriend left me. I couldn’t imagine that ignoring him would be good in any way.) Stop trying to call your ex boyfriend beginning this minute. Don’t ring him up again for at least the next day or two. Chances are very good that you’re going to receive at least one text message or call from him asking how you are.
It’s important that you act as though you’re over him and the easiest way to do that is to ignore him. His male pride is going to take over and he’s going to see your behavior as a sign of personal rejection. Panic will set in and he’ll instinctively set out to win you back.
Don’t Announce That You’re Going to Ignore Him
It may feel very tempting to tell your ex boyfriend that you’ll be ignoring him just so you can see his reaction, but avoid doing this. If you tell him that you’re not going to pay him any attention anymore, you’re actually defeating the entire purpose of doing this.
The moment you confide in him that you’re done with him, he’ll see it as a rouse or a game. You can’t allow that to happen. You have to simply slowly stop answering his text messages and calls. You can’t initiate any contact anymore and if he happens to run into you on the street or at your favorite coffee shop, just tell him that you’ve been especially busy and you don’t have time to chat.
You must make it appear as though you’re naturally investing in your own life again. If he thinks that you’re willfully ignoring him, he’s going to become angry with you and treat you in exactly the same way.
Make a promise to yourself that you’re going to remove yourself from his life for a set number of weeks, and then follow through. You have to view this as a process and part of the path to get him back again. Keep quiet about your intentions. It’s vital that you don’t confide in any mutual friends or they’ll tell him and your plan won’t work.
Win Your Boyfriend Back By Investing in Yourself Again
While you’re ignoring your ex boyfriend you need to do something to keep yourself busy and occupied. The best thing you can possibly do is pay more attention to yourself. If you’ve been mourning the loss of the relationship you probably haven’t taken the time to take care of yourself. This is detrimental in so many ways and you need to address it before your physical or emotional health suffers.
Your ex isn’t going to want you back if you’re a mess so it’s time to take care of you. This may involve taking a short vacation with a friend – think of it as a girl’s weekend away or perhaps you can focus on a venue closer to home and spend the day at a spa being pampered and cared for.
Another great way to help you see the value in you again is to clear out the past. A great way to do this is to pack up all the clothing items you haven’t used in over a year and donate them to charity or drop them off at a consignment shop. Visiting the salon to get a new haircut and color can also chase away the blues and give you a new and fierce outlook on life.
Improve yourself in every way you know how and your ex boyfriend is bound to take a second glance when you two do reconnect in the future. You want to show him that you’re better when you’re not with him. When he senses that he’s going to do everything in his power to prove you wrong by convincing you to take him back.
Important – You have one chance to get him back. If you don’t take the right steps in the days and weeks following the break up, you will lose the man you love forever. It’s truly that simple. You have to have a grasp on the male psychology that is at work in your ex boyfriend’s mind and you have to understand exactly what to do and say to get him to want you back. If you do anything wrong, you risk losing him to another woman for good. Don’t make that mistake. Watch this video now.