I’m a realist. That comes in very handy when we’re dealing with relationship issues. So many women ask me for advice on a daily basis and almost all of that advice centers around an ex boyfriend. I understand this completely because I have also struggled with a break up. I was desperately in love with a man who just walked away from me. He literally walked away – he wouldn’t return my texts, my phone calls to him went unanswered and he refused to see me. He broke up with me in the worst way possible – with silence.
I tried in vain to get him back for weeks. I went so far as to send him flowers. I cringe when I think about that now. I don’t know why I believed that chasing down a man who obviously wanted little to do with me would make him race back into my arms.
Finally, a very wise and kind-hearted friend of mine told me I was making a fool of myself. She was right. She asked me to consider what I would think of any other woman acting the way I was and when I started thinking about it like that, I realized that I was throwing myself at a man who just wasn’t interested in me anymore.
The very next day I made a promise to myself that I’d do everything I possibly could to avoid calling or texting him. I think I got through three or four hours before I sent him a text telling him I missed him. Again, there was no response. That final silence was the breaking point for me and I packed away every momento of the relationship, deleted his contact information from my phone and unfriended him on Facebook. It wasn’t easy, but it was essential for my own self esteem.
Soon after I had lunch with a male friend who had gone through something similar a few months before. He asked me if I was even sure that I could get my ex boyfriend back. At first I didn’t quite understand the question… I hadn’t even considered whether there was a chance to get him back, I just assumed I could make it happen.
The sad reality is that some relationships cannot be saved. If you’re putting all of your emotional and physical energy into trying to get a man back who isn’t ever coming back, you need to stop.
How are you supposed to know whether it’s possible to get him back?
It’s really simple – take this quiz.
These are 10 very telling questions. Answer as honestly as you possibly can. (Don’t answer the way you think you should because you’ll just be cheating yourself.) BE HONEST and answer them from the heart.
Do this before you put any more effort into trying to get him back.
You’ll be glad you did.
On a side note – the ex boyfriend that just disappeared on me, just made me a cup of coffee when I woke up this morning. He brings me flowers once a month and he tells me he loves me every single day. We have two beautiful children and a wonderful future to look forward to.
Getting back together is possible if the chance is there. Take this simple quiz and find out for yourself whether getting him back really is the right thing for you to do.