What’s the number one thing you want right at this moment? Okay – besides your ex boyfriend back. You want the man to regret the break up, don’t you? It’s not something you need to be ashamed of. I felt exactly the same way when my guy dumped me. I just wanted him to feel that surge of regret wash over him and I wanted to know that he wished that the break up hadn’t have happened in the first place. In all my missing infinite wisdom I actually thought that if I put on a “show” of sorts and acted all carefree and happy that he’d regret breaking up with me. So I posted all over Facebook about what a great time I was having. I told our mutual friends that I was meeting new people all the time and I made the crucial mistake of saying to one of my ex boyfriend’s closest friends that I was glad the break up happened. My ex must have thought I was a raving lunatic. It took so long for me to undo that damage. You don’t want to make the same mistakes I was making. There is definitely a way to get him to regret the break up and it has nothing to do with pretending your life without him is perfect.
You have to be realistic when you’re working your way through the break up. You’re inevitably going to have some really great days when you feel on top of the world and your emotions and then you’re going to have some awful days when all you really want to do is crawl up into a ball in bed and cry your eyes out. Your ex boyfriend knows this. He’s likely having the same shifts in emotions as you are. Granted, he may not spend much time crying but it’s very possible that he’s cycling through feeling sad, and feeling happy.
The very best thing you can do is to act mature. Your ex boyfriend is expecting you to act a certain way for his benefit. He’s braced himself for the onslaught of tears and anger that he thinks you’re going to throw at him. If you instead talk to him with grace and kindness, that is going to make him stop and think about what’s happened between you two and what he wants to happen in the future.
By handling your emotions and showing your ex boyfriend that you can gracefully manage the break up, he’ll see you as someone to admire. He’ll be in awe of the fact that you aren’t falling into a million pieces on the floor. (Even if you are in private, don’t let him see that.)
Be strong, be brave and always be compassionate when you’re dealing with your boyfriend. You want him to see the best in you even after the relationship has come to a temporary end.